What we believe about our relationships shows up as sensors or detectors for what’s okay or not, what’s ‘normal’ or not, what’s forgivable or not. And they reveal themselves as behavioral patterns. Some beliefs create distance in relationships—here’s what to do instead.

The cast of Love on the Spectrum models the kind of communication, kindness, and emotional honesty we all need and benefit from in our relationships. Here's what we can learn from them.

Criticism in a relationship sure can land hard! And automatic impulses to explain, defend, or justify make perfect sense as they’re human responses. But they’re not relational or connecting.

Thankfully there are ways to meet these moments that help you stay grounded and connected.

Have you ever had someone say, “I’m fine,” but their tone, posture, or energy told you they were anything but? That’s communication. Maybe you've given the silent treatment, shut down in an argument, or avoided a difficult conversation altogether (only to find that the tension grew stronger). That’s communication too. We can’t not communicate.

Does your relationship with your partner deserve your wholehearted attention? Have you deemed it worthy of meaningful effort? Are you doing the reps to keep your connection strong, healthy, and alive? Or are you just ‘going through the motions’ as you remain barely tethered to each other?

Your partner wanted to talk and has started to share her thoughts. You’re there. You’re facing her. And then you hear, “You’re not listening to me.” And now Wait, what?! zings through your brain. Feel confused? Frustrated? Maybe even somewhat defensive? I am listening! What just happened?!